Self-pity gets pretty close to paranoia and paranoia is one of the very hardest things to reverse. It's a ridiculous way to behave and when you avoid it you get a great advantage over everybody else, almost everybody else, because self-pity is a standard condition and yet you can train yourself out of it.
Envy is a really stupid sin because it's the only one you could never possibly have any fun at. There's a lot of pain and no fun. Why would you want to get on that trolley?
- Charlie Munger
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Every mischance in life was an opportunity to learn something and your duty was not to be submerged in self-pity, but to utilize the terrible blow in a constructive fashion.
Carson's prescriptions for sure misery included: 1) Ingesting chemicals in an effort to alter mood or perception; 2) Envy; and 3) Resentment.
Johnson spoke well when he said that life is hard enough to swallow without squeezing in the bitter rind of resentment.
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在生命没有结束之前， 没有人的一生能够被称为是幸福的。 - 克洛伊斯
"No man's life should be accounted a happy one until it is over." - Croesus
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the word "happy" would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness.
- Carl Jung
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「世上只有一種英雄主義，就是在認清生活真相之後依然熱愛生活。」
- 斯蒂芬·茨威格 《羅曼·羅蘭》
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The past was a lie, that memory has no return, that every spring gone by could never be recovered, and that the wildest and most tenacious love was an ephemeral truth in the end.
- Gabriel García Márquez's One Hundred Years of Solitude
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Life is the most difficult exam. Many people fail because they try to copy others, withuout realizing that everyone has a different question paper
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不像考卷，所有複雜困難的問題，都能得到一個解答。真實人生裡，有些事永遠也沒有答案。
- 那些年，我們一起追的女孩
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你如果不信命，这一生该有多少让你失望的事情
- 王德峰
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我们确认有命之后，我们的人生观才会是积极的。
- 王德峰
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We suffer more often in imagination than in reality.
- Seneca
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Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.
- Soren Kierkegaard
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But man is not made for defeat… A man can be destroyed but not defeated.
- The Old Man and The Sea, 1952
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知不可奈何而安之若命，唯有德者能之。
- 庄子·德充符
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我有一种哲学，就是不为过去所做的事情后悔。只是设法记住你当时为什么做出那样的决定。
I have a philosophy that it doesn't do any good to go and make regrets about what you did before but to try to remember how you made the decision at the time.
- Richard P. Feynman, Perfectly Reasonable Deviations from the Beaten Track, p. 421
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The healthier strategy for controlling the fear of failure is to redefine the meaning of your mistakes.
People with low self-esteem consider mistakes to be an indication of a general lack of worth. Each error reaffirms their underlying belief that something is terribly wrong with them.
In chapter 10, on handling mistakes, you will explore one of the fundamental laws of human nature: that you always choose actions that seem most likely to meet your needs based on current awareness. You make the best decision you can at any point in time, given what you know and what you want.
The secret to coping with any failure is to recognize that each decision you've made was the very best one available under the circumstances.
- Self-Esteem Fourth edition
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There is only one thing that I dread: not to be worthy of my sufferings